Who Is Responsible For Creating The Life You Want After Abuse?

Many people get stuck in a post-abuse rut and are afraid to make the drastic changes needed in order to live the life that they truly want to live. Often talking and complaining about things endlessly and make no forward motion. When one is always pointing fingers at someone else and blaming them for all that is wrong in their lives they are not able to see clearly what needs to be changed and change it.

Accepting responsibility for our own lives does NOT invalidate our experience or excuse the behavior of our past abusers. We have to realize that we can only change ourselves in this life. In order to change our lives, we need to dig deep and make the changes necessary to lead the life we want. It has nothing to do with them. The best thing we can do with Toxic People is keep them our of our lives and most of all.... out of our minds.

Change can be exhausting, challenging, frustrating and scary but it is also exciting, interesting, validating and promotes spiritual and emotional growth. We MUST change our thoughts in order to change ourselves. We must change ourselves in order to change our circumstances.

Once we take responsibility for our own happiness and stop looking behind or in front of us for someone else to make things happen, we realize that our champion has been with us all along. We are our own superman.

Most Co-dependents are their own worst enemy but believe they are a best friend to everyone else. It is impossible to truly be a best friend to someone else when you have never experienced real friendship. Co-deps give and give and give, often to their own detriment. Later becoming bitter and resentful because they gave so much and it was not reciprocal.

The fault is not outside of ourselves. True everlasting change and healing must come from within.

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